tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post115385888959515564..comments2024-03-27T14:02:33.261-05:00Comments on Churp, Churp: I am ever so tired of the subject, but continuing it here...Crickethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13622985406269216862noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1154050124431272402006-07-27T20:28:00.000-05:002006-07-27T20:28:00.000-05:00Oh, all this bleating gets so tiresome. Whoops! My...Oh, all this <I>bleating</I> gets so tiresome. Whoops! My bad. I momentarily channeled The Bad Commenter.<BR/><BR/>Gee, I should check my stats and see if I've had any...<I>dedicated</I> readers lately. I never get those.<BR/><BR/>Ooh! But I did have a deranged commenter. On my grandma's douchebag post, in which I recount my grandma using the term literally rather than figuratively, somebody said I should be comfortable talking with my grandmother about cleaning herself because of my "filthy womanly parts"; he concluded, "dirty dirty dirty dirty dirty dirty dirty dirty." Cracked me up!Orangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433254398377357737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1154033019282976932006-07-27T15:43:00.000-05:002006-07-27T15:43:00.000-05:00I have more to say about it than this (oops, I sho...I have more to say about it than this (oops, I shot my wad, this is long), but I will say that I don't worry too much yet about J as a stepson or his mother/son dynamics. He's a sponge for positive attention and just doesn't need correction very much (I'll explain more below). <BR/><BR/>Although we're in a cushy place now, he goes through months where me bucks me on everything. Strangely, last I heard, it was a reversal and he was bucking his father. I sincerely think it was his turn.<BR/><BR/>P and my son got along well, although P (like most men I dated) did not understand J's tentative/nonrisk-taking nature, aka a sweet wuss. <BR/><BR/>Several times, P went overboard on mocking/punishing/chastising him, to where I asked P last year not to punish J at all, but to come to me. He suddenly understood my frustration in trying to indirectly deal with his daughter, but I doubt if he put that together - and I learned months later how angry he was about me asking him to not punish J - but he didn't ask/learn how to parent better, which was my underlying goal all along.<BR/><BR/>P punishes the person, not the act and he's gotten himself in trouble with his daughter's self esteem that way. The examples I heard are too gruesome to repeat. It was one of my failed lessons on him, how not to degrade when angry or understand how an act could be bad and the person not. <BR/><BR/>(Ah ha! That's probably why he couldn't get over Xmas; the act was some level of bad - jeez, I cried in public - but to him it really did make me a bad person. He literally punished me by pulling away, despite the fact he still loves me.)<BR/><BR/>On the cruise the evening of L's nasty postcard, we did discuss parenting, one of the few times. He criticized me strongly b/c, in the 3 months he'd known J, I'd "never once told him 'no.'" His warped <I>goal</I> was to tell his daughter 'no' and deflate her, put her in her place. <BR/><BR/>Hearing that from him, though, was one of the biggest compliments anyone could give me. I redirect; I use positive language; I offer compromises; I am creative; etc. I do not flat say 'no,' because many times parents say 'no' just because they're the ones in power, just because they can say 'no,' just because they're lazy. <BR/><BR/>I want my son to be involved with raising himself and, in particular, for him to have good brainstorming skills for coming up with alternatives. He's great at that and it makes him feel smart, yet I generally get my way, too.<BR/><BR/>P never caught on to the science of parenting. He is his mother's son. He blasted 'no' from the hip, degraded instead of coaxing decision-making skills. I tried to use finesse on him, offering parenting stuff for him to read, trying to model good behavior. <BR/><BR/>For a guy who is so fucking smart, he is so fucking dumb. You can't go up to a parent like that and say they suck as a parent, especially one with the guilt and self esteem issues he has. You can try to help and model the right behavior, but they have to take the reins somehow. To him, reins equate operating from guilt and all the empathy that could positively come from that were dashed by repeated statements to L like, "You embarrass me." I am ashamed at him and his parenting; I thought I could make a difference here, too, but there's no way.Crickethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13622985406269216862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1154020678670224212006-07-27T12:17:00.000-05:002006-07-27T12:17:00.000-05:00Amazing how different everyone's take on other's l...Amazing how different everyone's take on other's lives can be, isn't it? <BR/><BR/>I personally am on the side of being the mother with son who has had to try to not be the manipulative one with the "stepdad". Alex and I were a team for 10 years before Steve came along and that is a really hard habit to break. Plus I have to admit that my kid is damn fun and funny so it is fun to pick on the "stepdad" and he doesn't even get it. I am evil, I admit it. <BR/><BR/>I think I got what you had written about L and P. If you have no support from the actual parent in any attempt to get to know the child and when you, as an outsider, see obvious areas of concern and are ignored when you mention them, IN AN EFFORT TO HELP, it can't be easy. <BR/><BR/>I know that Alex and I have at times made Steve's life no so very pleasant, but apparently he really loves us as he is still here. It is getting easier the longer the 3 of us are together and there will be tough times but I am willing to make the effort to address any issues that the boy may have. But of course we all know that MY kid is perfect so most of the issues must be Steve's, right? ;)<BR/><BR/>Love your writing and keep it up, this is your place to vent and that is totally what mine is for too. If we can't get it out of our systems on here then it will come out IRL and that is what we are trying not to do.Shinnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11233585920183280455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153928306841610642006-07-26T10:38:00.000-05:002006-07-26T10:38:00.000-05:00I meant ... you had asked what mom&stepmom was doi...I meant ... you had asked what mom&stepmom was doing with her children while she was obsessing over your blog. I thought you may have posted the survey for her. I do not in anyway think you are a slacker mom. It sounds like if anything, like me, you did way too much for L because she required so much and P was rendered useless by all of the other women in his life. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Also, she is hiding behind the fact that you asked her to delurk as justification for this attack. This is true...you did, but asking for a little de-lurkiing is far different from asking to be judged and accused of all of that. She could have simply said. Look it was a tough situation. I would have handled things differenlty. Everyone has there own path. Hopefully all of you will use it as an experience to grow. Sometimes what works with stepchildren in my opinion is...<BR/><BR/>That is commenting. What she did was an attack.Mayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00727987440275720615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153919578484832322006-07-26T08:12:00.000-05:002006-07-26T08:12:00.000-05:00Another step mom and another lurker!~r thanks for ...Another step mom and another lurker!<BR/><BR/>~r thanks for speaking up and giving me a big ol' belly laugh. I need to see if your link goes to a blog.<BR/><BR/>Maya, again, we follow the same path. I just know there was trauma; thanks for filling in more.<BR/><BR/>Yeah, all this brought out a statement I'd forgetten to clarify before: L wasn't even around when I freaked at Xmas. P's not the type to tell her, so she doesn't even know about anything but the vibes and her father being forlorn afterwards.<BR/><BR/>Maya, I was enjoying the google ads, too. Yup, that's me. Slacker mom. I put nothing into it and take nothing for myself. Yup.Crickethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13622985406269216862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153888423033717772006-07-25T23:33:00.000-05:002006-07-25T23:33:00.000-05:00Ha! After re-reading my post to make sure I didn'...Ha! After re-reading my post to make sure I didn't sound too terrible. I looked at the bottom of the page and there was advertisement for a poll with the question "Are you a slacker mom? Answer these 15 questions. You did that on purpose for her didn't you!! ;)Mayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00727987440275720615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153883645829619142006-07-25T22:14:00.000-05:002006-07-25T22:14:00.000-05:00Well I am greatly disappointed that "she" doesn't ...Well I am greatly disappointed that "she" doesn't have a blog. Somehow I expected someone so agressive to not have her own turf to fight on. <BR/><BR/>I never ever had a clue how tough step-parenting would be especially with a spouse who parented off of guilt and a crazy ex-wife. I am heavily trained and educated in working with children/teenagers. I am actually a Junior High School teacher and am very accustomed to their traumas and adaptations. I love them and am often regarded as one of their favorites. <BR/><BR/>This step-parenting on the other hand has been such a hard road. The stress literally almost killed me. When I got my SD at 9, we truly adored each other and it was that way for many years. By the time she left at 18. I lost it after one to many things and told my husband to "get that fucking bitch out of my house". Terrible I know, but I had nothing left but anger. Everything else was manipulated and beat out of me, but anger and sadness and really, really being done. I have hear of many biomoms being at this same place around this time.<BR/><BR/>She has been in her own place for 15 months now. It has been hard repairing all of the damage, but Surfer and I have never been better and he still has a great relationship with her. I still have not spoken to her. I will, but when I am ready and not before. I will not allow that hell to be replayed. I have suffered much for drawing this boundary with him, SD, and his family, but I would not have changed it at all. I could have said it a little nicer, but the intent and follow through of her leaving would not change in the least.<BR/><BR/>Also, I had a terrible stepmom. Literally evil. I know the difference. I know that I wasn't great at points either. What's the difference you ask? Like you, I showed up. I was there. I cared. I bared my soul and marriage for this girl for a long time. What finally made me stop the bleeding?? The knowledge that she and the situation were making me sick and I knew that I could not have a baby with continuing on with the craziness. I did all I could do and that was enough. <BR/>Please take mom&stepmom's comments as comments and no more. You do not need to defend or explain. Those of us who are real, understand. A lot of us have been dealing with IF, which immediately gives us a lot of empathy and caring. <BR/>Finally, I agree what gives her so much time to hover over you like that. I don't even have kids at home and am not working this summer and still don't have time to keep my own blog up to date. YikesMayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00727987440275720615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153879506128887822006-07-25T21:05:00.000-05:002006-07-25T21:05:00.000-05:00In light of the recent entries, I should probably ...In light of the recent entries, I should probably come out of my lurking closet and say something.<BR/><BR/>First of all, as a stepmom, I practically stood up and cheered reading this entry. I have what is probably one of the world's easiest step situations, and I still know it's tough. Although I haven't been reading long, and I don't know much about your situation, the little that I have read tells me that what you've been through is more difficult than I can imagine. <BR/><BR/>Second, anyone who can't seem to understand that venting to a blog is a good, <I>safe</I> way to release frustrations so they don't infect your life (more) should probably just click that little X at the top of the screen, get offline and take a class in compassion or empathy or just general shut-the-fuck-up-ness.<BR/><BR/>And finally, thanks for being honest, even about things that aren't pretty.~rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04368972584277163688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153879101791880492006-07-25T20:58:00.000-05:002006-07-25T20:58:00.000-05:00Ron, you make two great points. Yes, I am tired of...Ron, you make two great points. Yes, I am tired of injuring my fellow bloggers with tales from this crypt. I want to let sleeping dogs lie.<BR/><BR/>You are also correct that those in happy relationships have no visceral clue about how difficult it is on the other side. It is very easy to dictate, "Oh, just go find love elsewhere," because it isn't that easy. <BR/><BR/>Besides, if it is that easy, it should be instant alarm bells. I'd told P on our first date that men fall for me entirely too easy, to please take things slowly. Instead, he told me he loved me a month later. <BR/><BR/>Next time, I'll take it as in insult instead of a compliment and run to the hills. <BR/><BR/>I love you: thems fightin' words.Crickethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13622985406269216862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153875432465625022006-07-25T19:57:00.000-05:002006-07-25T19:57:00.000-05:00I shouldn't have said Never; but certainly not rec...I shouldn't have said Never; but certainly not recently. And I think others may need to recall that men and women find and tolerate really bad matches all the goddamn time. When you're not "in Love", it's easy to wonder how somebody else can do Whatever or put up with Whoever! It goes around and around...Ron Southernhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08604305014713612990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153874962961531902006-07-25T19:49:00.000-05:002006-07-25T19:49:00.000-05:00I wish we could say that no bloggers were harmed d...I wish we could say that no bloggers were harmed during the making of this post. I look forward to your not having these same people to talk about. Maybe I'm wrong, but they never seemed to be very good for you!Ron Southernhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08604305014713612990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153874268411054322006-07-25T19:37:00.000-05:002006-07-25T19:37:00.000-05:00lrsh, I am glad for another step's perspective. I ...lrsh, I am glad for another step's perspective. I had searched high and low for blogs/info on the topic - real life, real circumstance stuff as well as books.<BR/><BR/>I also would talk to women I'd meet about their step relationships. Between the face-to-face and online exposures, I met many women who said they would not do it all again. The step relationship took too great a toll and they regret their involvement. They wish they had walked away. While I fully understand that perspective, I bucked it, thinking it didn't apply to us, that I could make a dent. Now, I see where I wasted 2.5 yrs, but I did get to know a man that I loved enough to try on all the other fronts. I want to call it a waste, but I can't.<BR/><BR/>However, I am relieved not to have that teenager in my life or her potentially corrupting my son. It is a relief to not worry when the next shoe will drop. I am sure she'll be up on drug charges before P knows it. <BR/><BR/>Also, someone emailed me privately, too, saying something like, "If I had a dollar... Columbine... aunt." Funny to want to shirt tail yourself to tragedy.<BR/><BR/>b, I know that honesty in a new relationship is hard, but fuck! About 1-2 months in, I sat him down and quizzed him whether there was any behavioral issues with her, whether there was alcoholism (him?, his mother for sure) or abuse. You know what I went through with ex on those things; I'm definitely not saying that I would have dumped him off of that, but it sure is nice to know what one is up against.Crickethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13622985406269216862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153870290683883592006-07-25T18:31:00.000-05:002006-07-25T18:31:00.000-05:00Cricket:It's my first post here but I've been read...Cricket:<BR/><BR/>It's my first post here but I've been reading your blog for a bit. I admire your strength to allow us all to visit your inner thoughts. You’ve had quite an amazing journey thus far! I also think its fabulous that you allow any of us to post comments.<BR/><BR/>Mom and stepmom has got some balls….. or just a lot of free time. Me personally, I don’t buy the “Aunt of a Columbine victim.” Sorry, too convenient. Call it an internet hunch. (Someone check snopes.com….. but then again, I shouldn’t say this. It will give her food for further snarky posts.)<BR/><BR/>Cricket - I myself am a stepmom and I could see my stepsons and myself in so many of your posts. Obviously I am lucky that their father too saw manipulative behavior and put a stop to it. It was never “me or the kids.” It was me AND the kids. Too bad P couldn’t get the point. And pathological mothers??? Be glad you don’t have the pathological MIL! (thank goodness for geographical distance and a husband who sees it too …. FINALLY!) I hope that someday my stepsons will grow to love me and that we can have a wonderful relationship. (Unfortunately I see this only if their crackhead mother finally ODs on something.)<BR/><BR/>I agree that the blog world can open you up to the good, the bad and the ugly. Don’t they give out “Best of the Blogosphere” awards??? It seems you’ve managed to get yourself the front-runner for “Asshat troll of the year!”<BR/><BR/>Keep writing – some of us are still listeningAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153869524177416642006-07-25T18:18:00.000-05:002006-07-25T18:18:00.000-05:00True again. And I do understand your adoption meta...True again. And I do understand your adoption metaphor. I also think that it is a natural thing. Who tells someone on a first date: Man! I've got an asshole for a kid! She is a total punk! Nope. People don't say those things and people tend to downplay their childs problems because they think it makes them look like a bad parent. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, I've been reading for a long time and I keep coming back because you are real enough to admit when you make mistakes, when you have shortcomings and when you feel flawed. I like that. You have one of the most honest blogs I've ever read and I'm sure it sucks for people to step all over your honesty to tell you how everything that hurts you is your own fucking fault. I'm sorry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153868121861881432006-07-25T17:55:00.000-05:002006-07-25T17:55:00.000-05:00Thanks, Kellie. Doesn't make sense, does it? Howev...Thanks, Kellie. Doesn't make sense, does it? However, I seem to be on her daily patrol - at present, she's refreshing every 5-10 minutes. I fear her darling children are neglected! And I'm willing to bet I'm not her only target, just the flavor of the week. I wish she's go try to warp some other children, get a life, leave mine alone.<BR/><BR/>baggage and Melissaq, I am not one to delete stuff. I figure people have their say and I am public, however, I am human and not one to go onto someone else's front porch to spit on them, even if they politely call out, "Howdy." We'll see, is all I'm saying. In my opinion, someone is coming here and looking foolish. That makes me laugh more than anything else. I do love comedy.<BR/><BR/>Yes, I did love P. More than once, I told him I loved L, too. She was a tough cookie and I could have never known the scope of her when P and I started. I've said it before, I was vested in him before I knew how bad off she was, despite me asking. Further, once I realized how troubled she was, I severly limited my son's exposure to her. <BR/><BR/>Just now, I have realized it's like adopting, but with this step girlfriend thing, I didn't have social workers asking questions to get us all on the same page. That system would have given me information about a child I didn't know and structure in getting to know her. Instead, I had P, who wanted me bad enough to gloss over things, but I just couldn't have known. Draw a parallel with the finances he didn't want me to know about and learned the hard way.<BR/><BR/>Gosh, DD. Maybe she knows so much better about them than I because she WAS there. She used the rest of that toothpaste; she put that chair on the ship in a different place all the time; she was that lump in the box springs; she ate that last chicken breast; she's the one who keyed the tailgate. <BR/><BR/>She knows so much because she was involved, a ghost in the mirror! She was hiding out in L's room with the boyfriend, too! hehe<BR/><BR/>Her judgments are accurate because she has lived this hell that I was doing fairly well getting over until she stuck her gnarly face into it to rehash old news. I didn't invite her here. I didn't invite a troll. I politely invited conversation. <BR/><BR/>Yup, I'm on the road to recovery and dating anew, forgetting about performing heinous acts like trying to help the man I loved, carving out a life with him, his daughter, and my son.<BR/><BR/>Now I have trash dredging up old trash, making fun of said trash, then giving me shit because I didn't take out the trash! It's all too.... trashy! I need a shower now.<BR/><BR/>Obviously, she doesn't understand conversational. Maybe <I>pleading</I> and attention is what <I>she</I> really wants. Obviously, a lot of my writing didn't sink in, though, because I blog about almost anything and someone reading some 800 posts over five days must want some sort of conversation and interaction; I didn't have to ask twice, not that I would have. As well as I write, there still must have been some question unanswered, so I invited discourse.<BR/><BR/>[Tongue-in-cheek ALERT: it applies to almost all of the above, in case you weren't able to discern that!]<BR/><BR/>Further, I don't know how to make it more obvious, but I'll say it again: I blog to record myself, thoughts, deeds, memories. I do it publically for the discipline and because some things can be educational to others. I know I've learn off of other bloggers and I'm not ashamed to admit it. I enjoy the readership [which if you supermom didn't notice is pretty specific within a single community to which I am guessing you don't belong - you did come here via Karen's mention of my blog concerning the B'more quints, but I don't hear you as a compassionate IF/SIF person, so I figure you're just cruising for targets] and I do ask for feedback, but these readers are not here with me either and they don't know the whole story either, as much as I wordily tried to convey it. <BR/><BR/>However, they attempt to be direct and helpful in return. <B>TROLL TROPHY: No one in 21 months of this has tried to be as hurtful as you.</B> I have a strong suspicion that that describes you as a mother and stepmother, too. Oh, add wife, too.<BR/><BR/>About the Columbine comparison, I consciously went to to extremes, because you obviously weren't getting my point. Children who misbehave should be chastized/punished/loved and, as human beings, how could we not be horrified by such an action even if it were one's own child? I think that is a simple concept. I am not a bad person for being horrified by some of L's actions; she didn't kill anyone, but I honestly fear she's on her way - she or one of her friends/boyfriends; her behaviours are increasingly violent and I wanted to stop that like others didn't do for other teenagers. One wants to protect, but one should be detached enough to see the horror; P should have been more detached and that was one of my benefits. Perhaps you misunderstood this reference in your own grief, or better yet go read baggage's comment for any further clarification.<BR/><BR/>And if I might quote my own personal troll, "Jesus gay, lady, get a grip and move on."Crickethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13622985406269216862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153864963442820822006-07-25T17:02:00.000-05:002006-07-25T17:02:00.000-05:00Cricket,What in the world is going on over here?Ho...Cricket,<BR/>What in the world is going on over here?<BR/>How is the mom and stepmom trash?<BR/>Just get rid of them.<BR/>Nobody wants to see their garbage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153864549311442112006-07-25T16:55:00.001-05:002006-07-25T16:55:00.001-05:00Oh, that was me by the way. Haha..I didn't mean to...Oh, that was me by the way. Haha..I didn't mean to go anonymous.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153864511137878762006-07-25T16:55:00.000-05:002006-07-25T16:55:00.000-05:00Well shit...I think that when you put your blog ou...Well shit...I think that when you put your blog out there for the "internets" to read, you have to take the good shit with the bad shit. So although people sometimes write or post to tell me that I'm an idiot, I try to take it as part of the deal. People can say a lot when they are anonymous.<BR/><BR/>That being said, the one thing that struck me in all of my reading of you is that you truly loved P and you truly wanted it to work. Maybe that had changed over time. Relationships aren't black and white, cut and dry. The issues you had with L went deeper than just a kid and you not getting along. It showed where P's priorities were, what type of man he is, etc.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, the part that bugged me about her comment is that she is smart enough to "not get involved with a man that I cannot tolerate."<BR/><BR/>Well, sometimes you get involved before you know you can't tolerate someone. And not only that, but I am sure as hell lucky that Geo is committed to me, regardless of whether both of us can tolerate Bug at some times. It's not all cut and dried.<BR/><BR/>I'm rambling...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153863386350520922006-07-25T16:36:00.000-05:002006-07-25T16:36:00.000-05:00And comparing a kid who threw grapes at your car, ...And comparing a kid who threw grapes at your car, had sex with her boyfriend and drank at Christmas to the Columbine kids? Is that ''tongue-in-cheek'' or just as gross as I perceive it? Yeah, gross. And wrong. And very disturbing to compare her actions with those of two kids who altered the lives of hundreds, permanately.<BR/><BR/>Jesus gay, lady, get a grip and move on.<BR/><BR/>-Mom/Stepmom and Aunt of a Columbine victimAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153862048225543162006-07-25T16:14:00.000-05:002006-07-25T16:14:00.000-05:00You will notice that I did read your blog in it's...You will notice that I did read your blog in it's entirety and didn't comment, regardless of your caveat listed on every single page. Until you invited me to comment and/or e-mail, I didn't say a word. So in response to, ''Don't read 800 posts in a blog if you don't like it'', I can only respond that if you don't want honest comments, don't plead for them. <BR/><BR/>Also, I never said or implied that I am a perfect parent or step-parent. But I am smart enough to not get involved with a man who has a child that I cannot tolerate and it didn't take 800 posts to understand your very much not ''tongue in cheek'' assessments of L and how much you reviled her. <BR/><BR/>You can pat yourself on the back all day for your patience but it had nothing to do with patience and everything to do with what you needed out of the relationship with P with zero regard for your son or L. Paint it how you need to now or say, ''how I am here is NOTHING like how I act in real life; only paid professionals know me to be this bitter and under-handed in reality'' because if you are even capable of seeing how sadly honest those words are maybe you can stop the bitterness of like say, P(is for pussy), and move on with your life possibly with the intent of being more honest and less ''patient'' because as you can see, that obviously isn't fair to you or anyone else.<BR/><BR/>Good luck to you. But again, don't beg for commentary if you don't want honesty or better stated, don't ask questions you aren't sure you know the answer to. You asked if I blog and of course the answer is no. Because I don't want (or need) to defend my life, nor do I need the support or critique of strangers on the internet. You asked for it, you got it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153861273592290972006-07-25T16:01:00.000-05:002006-07-25T16:01:00.000-05:00I think you handled that beautifully. If the woman...I think you handled that beautifully. If the woman is in wont of a trainwreck, well, you know where to send her. And, no, I don't mean *there*, but a link to trainwrecks.<BR/><BR/>Obviously, she must have felt some kinship to what you were going through or else she wouldn't have bothered. That means her life isn't as perfect and she was probably projecting her frustrations onto you. There hasn't been one blog that I spend any kind of time on that I don't say "that could be me."DDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17864339996118337420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8703107.post-1153860486666461292006-07-25T15:48:00.000-05:002006-07-25T15:48:00.000-05:00I am a firm believer that if you don't like a blog...<I>I am a firm believer that if you don't like a blog, then just don't read 800 posts over 5 days.</I><BR/><BR/>LMAO...best line EVER!Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13571184480869468994noreply@blogger.com