Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Heard as a Maybe

And the answer was........................no.

He said she really looked like she wanted to say 'yes,' but it came out 'no.'

He is completely taking it in stride and not giving up. I told him to stay with it, but not be obnoxious. When asked where the bracelet is, he pointed to his pocket and said he wanted to keep it for today, too.

I told him she was probably surprised, as it came out of the blue, and most people react with a 'no' when surprised. He took it as a good sign that she immediately went to her girlfriends to tell them. (Me? I'd have gone the paranoia route, but he seems pretty confident he can read her.)

I coached him a little for next time he's in this position, that it's always good to have some stock phrases ready. He could have followed up the 'no' with, "I would still like to have you be my girlfriend, so if you change your mind, let me know." Another alternative could be to tell her to take some time to decide before getting back to him.

His heart could have been broken, but he still seems to be going strong. I can appreciate his resilience. Let's see what today brings.

10 comments:

Tara said...

That is really brave of him to want to try again. I hope she comes to her senses and says "yes" very soon.

Aunt Becky said...

What a sweet kid you have, Cricket. Seriously, I can only hope that Ben grows up to be like that.

Monica Cassani said...

I'm totally impressed with J's confidence...you are certainly doing something VERY right with him!!

Anonymous said...

There's a million other chickies out there....

He's got some cajones for a kid. Hopefully he has that for the rest of his life.

Anonymous said...

Aww, I'm sorry she said no...but hopefully she will come to her senses!

laura b. said...

I love your son's great attitude. That will take him far in life, it really will.
BTW, I really like your new haircut.

Well-heeled mom said...

Good for J! I love that he can rise up to a challenge.

Brigitte Ballard said...

Wow...

Your son is tough! I totally understand the suprized = say no approach.

I really hope she decides yes was the right answer.

Val said...

Golly -- I just hope I can ward off this phrase w/MINE for a coupla more yrs!?!?
(He'll still hold hands w/Mommy walking to the school door, bless his precious lil' heart!)

Val said...

Typing too fast -- of course I meant "PHASE" not "phrase"... [moron]
& if he's straight (???) of course it won't be a PHASE it will be a LIFELONG OBSESSION!