It is evident that I've been in an evaluation mood, wondering what I can do differently in the future based on my new revelations about the past.
I've asked several people about trust and respect, wondering how it is either given or cultivated. For myself, I offer them quickly and that's how I wind up burnt. I give away power, love, respect, trust all too easily and at great cost.
I think answering the question is a gut reaction and the initial interpretation is what's important to me, not the analysis of the degrees of circumstances surrounding the words.
I first asked Ted, because I'd told him that I uncharacteristically respect him as a male, one who cares for his ill mother.
Do you respect and trust first, until someone proves you wrong? Or do you reserve trust and respect until someone earns it?
Ted felt strongly that lumping trust and respect together was wrong, that they are separate. He thinks he takes time to develop trust (something I would have guessed about him), but he lends respect until proven otherwise.
I asked my buddy Richard today by phone. He thinks Ted has it all wrong. He thinks he inately has to trust to function in society, sort of like thinking people are looking out for your back. However, respect must be cultivated and should not be given.
How do you operate? When do you trust or respect?
What other words/concepts besides trust and respect apply to this analysis?