Shinny brought up a point that I'd already been mulling over.
How well do you work with your SO?
When we were married, we did not work well together. Yelling would ensue and it'd get ugly. It was mostly my fault, I'll admit.
I remember my parents working together to tile bathrooms, paint, landscape, etc. There'd be ball busting, but they'd do good work. I remember her saying, however, that wallpapering is divorce-worthy. That's why I never tried wallpapering with ex. The irony is palpable.
Doing the fence, we were fine, until I got a bit snippy on the fourth day, Saturday morning. He laughed and pointed, saying he'd go work on the other side, but I got it together and straightened out my mouth and frustration. I felt that I wasn't being listened to regarding the tightness of the peek-a-boo boards (I wanted virtually no gaps and ex feared the HOA rules) -- I knew I would fend off the HOA if it came down to it. This is the end of the house with foot traffic from the poor neighborhood and the reason the mail has been stolen twice, bike stolen, stink bomb in the door, etc. Sore subjects. If the HOA did their job and put up a fence on the other end of the neighborhood, I would not have to build my own fortress. Or get made when ex didn't understand the significance.
So my frustration carried a lot of history, but he didn't tune into that. However, because I want the fence built, I am sucking it up. In fact, picky Norma comes by and critiques. I tell her I refuse to because he is being good to me. It looks perfect to me. I actually think Norma is jealous.
So, yes, ex and I are building a fence as a divorced couple. We could have never done it when we were married. Never.
On a funny note, my mother forced her second husband to redo bathrooms and such like they did in her first marriage. She was overheard more that once saying to the Lowe's guy or anyone else who would listen that her first husband was so much better at remodeling than her second. Nothing like providing some incentive ... for divorce!